Good mothering starts when You are mothered well too.
You expected the sleeplessness and exhaustion. You expected the sacrifice and steep learning curve. You even expected all the changes you knew it meant for your life and how hard those would be. But you never imagined it would feel like this.
It’s so hard to feel bad at being a mom.
Motherhood has a curious way of exposing your every tender edge and stirring up every fear or insecure story you’ve ever told yourself.
It can stretch you to the brink of falling apart or wanting to run away from it all nearly every day. It makes you endlessly over think, blame yourself, and wonder if you’re doing it all wrong.
If your inner critic, sadness, anxiety, or self-doubt are louder than ever, they’re trying to tell you something important.
Feeling like a failure as a mother means there are parts of You that need mothering.
Hi there, I’m Keely. And I love to help deeply caring, committed mothers like you learn how to be the parent you want to be by becoming the one you needed for yourself.
Did you know it’s by design that motherhood brings up your most vulnerable parts, painful memories and deepest insecurities?
We are wired by the way we ourselves were parented and the relationships we’ve known since then, and this wiring becomes the blueprint for the work of raising our own children. Contrary to a popular myth that mothering is instinctive for women, every script we use for loving and parenting our children must be learned — or more often unlearned.
So much of what we do as mothers is either a reflexive imitation of what we’ve been taught or observed in relationship with others, or a painstaking effort to undo every relationship pattern we don’t want to repeat. Most of the time it’s a complicated and frustrating mix of both, and that’s why being a mom can feel so impossibly hard.
It’s probably why you feel like you’re failing too.
Motherhood is meant to bring up your deepest insecurities and the most protective parts of you that defend them to help you adapt to the challenges and learn to do the job. But sometimes the parts stirring in you as mother now are also the unhealed wounds and self-limiting beliefs from your past that need your help now more than ever too.
Often the greatest moms are the ones who feel the worst, and you deserve to feel better.
That’s where I can help.
In my work, I help moms unblend from the “bad mom” story by unpacking the reasons you feel that way and where they each come from. Together we explore all the fears, doubts, and shame you’re carrying that were probably handed down to you and now only weigh you down as a mother. We meet those memories, beliefs, emotions and body experiences with the curiosity + compassion they need to feel fully seen and finally begin to heal.
Using Mindfulness, Attachment Theory, Internal Family Systems (IFS) other embodied frameworks, I help you move through the emotional, relational and identity upheaval of motherhood and begin putting yourself back together by tending to each and every part of you that’s asking for support.
Parts that panic, rage, and shut-down that happens when it all feels too much.
Parts that need to control every detail to keep you feeling safe or good enough.
Parts that feel sad, lonely and grieving for all that’s been lost or never fully understood about you.
Parts that feel exhausted, discouraged and ashamed for falling short and being unable to keep up.
Because it’s when we help you get to know and better understand these parts of yourself and where they come from, you get to finally unburden the load you’ve been carrying all this time and start feeling more like the person and mother you really want to be.
When you begin to welcome and nurture every part of you the same way you would love your own children, you heal in ways that they will never have to.
That’s why I’m here.
It’s my honor to help women and mothers like you reclaim yourself and redefine what it means to be a “good mom.”
Holding space for this tranformation, the healing that happens there, and the joy it can bring is where I center my practice as a maternal mental health specialist everyday.
Wherever you are in the motherhood journey, I am here and ready to support you on your way to feeling like the best mother your child could have.
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Specialized care for women, partners + families of mothers who are navigating the adjustment and relationship challenges of ever-evolving parenthood. With a gentle IFS and attachment-informed approach, I help you process your past and present experiences, and learn how to be the grounded and confident parent you always needed.
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